Marriage and the Single Person

Whether married or not, we play a significant role in each other’s lives.

If you are married, ask yourself these questions:

  • How many single friends do you have? (family members don’t count)
  • When was the last time you did something with them?
    • Romans 12:4– “For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ and individually members one of another.”
    • 1 Corinthians 12:25– “That there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for on another.”
    • Romans 12:10– “Love one another with brotherly affection.  Outdo one another in showing honor.”

So what does this mean? We’re instructed to love, actively participate, encourage, and support everyone who is part of the body of Christ. We are told that we each bring something important and special given to us by the Holy Spirit. But are we including everyone?? Or only those people we have something in common with??

Maybe you’ve had these thoughts:

  • But I have kids…
    • What a great opportunity to have singles interact with kids to gain experience for when they have their own!
    • Maybe they are a single parent with kids who could use a play date.
    • What about all the additional love your kids can get from that individual?
  • But we are not the same age so we can’t relate…
    • You can provide a positive influence and example to a younger single person.
    • You can learn something from the experience of someone older.
    • God provides opportunities that may require you to be a mother, father, sister, brother, or just as a friend.
  • But we don’t have anything in common…
    • Providing a meal for someone doesn’t require commonalities, just love.
    • You may find out you have more in common than you think.
    • Inviting someone to a movie doesn’t involve anything but fun!
  • But they have so many friends and probably are too busy to get together…
    • Often singles appear busy, but they have no one to do anything with.
    • A routine day usually involves going from work to an empty house, every day.
    • Don’t assume they are busy. Just ask them to join you and your family. I bet they will!

Your marriage could provide godly instruction, guidance, and insight a single person could use with their relationships. Your family could help someone feel loved when they feel all alone. You could provide a meal for someone when they have no food.

Make the effort to step outside your comfort zone by following God’s instructions! Reach out to a single member of your church and watch and see all God does with it!

Love by doing, not just talking.

This is what discipleship looks like-it starts with an action of LOVE!