Become a Leader in Your Home

A Very important aspect to, becoming the Man that God Created. (This is all of us).  Is learning what it means to be a Leader in your home.

It does not matter if you are married or not.  There are much needed steps that we need to take to be a Great Leader in your Home.  A time to Create Leadership qualities is desperately needed.   What does being a Leader in your home mean?  What is a Leader?


What makes a leader?  Rank?  Status?  Celebrity?  Caste?  Clout?  Style?  Is leadership automatically given by a box on the organizational chart?  Where do position and power figure into the formula for leadership?  And what is the ideal model for leaders?  Is it the corporate CEO?  The military commander?  The head of state?  Jesus answered all those questions in a few words.

His views on leadership are conspicuously out of step with the conventional wisdom of our age: “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and those who are great exercise authority over them. Yet it shall not be so among you; but whoever desires to become great among you, let him be your servant. And whoever desires to be first among you, let him be your slave— just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many” (Matthew 20:25–28).

According to Christ, then, the truest kind of leadership demands service, sacrifice, and selflessness. A proud and self-promoting person is not a good leader by Christ’s standard, regardless of how much clout he or she might wield.

Leaders who look to Christ as their Leader and their supreme model of leadership will have servants’ hearts. They will exemplify sacrifice. I realize those are not characteristics most people associate with leadership, but they are essential qualities of a biblical approach to leadership, which is the only kind I’m interested in.

Notice, by the way, that Jesus was expressly teaching Christians to approach leadership in a different way and from a radically different point of view than the leaders of this world. It’s silly for Christians to assume (as these days many do) that the best way for Christians to learn leadership is from worldly examples.

There’s a crucial reason for this: Leadership for the Christian always has a spiritual dimension. The duty of leading people carries with it certain spiritual obligations. That is as true for the Christian president of a secular company as it is for the stay-at-home mom whose sphere of leadership might extend no further than her own children. All Christians in every kind of leadership are called to be spiritual leaders.

If you truly understand your accountability before God as a leader, you can begin to see why Christ portrayed the leader as a servant. He was not suggesting, as many have supposed, that lowliness alone is the essence of leadership. There are plenty of humble, meek, tenderhearted, servant-minded people who are not leaders.

A true leader inspires followers. Someone who has no followers can hardly be called a leader. So while it is certainly true that leadership demands a servant’s heart; it is by no means the case that everyone with a servant’s heart is thereby a leader. There’s far more to leadership than that. To put it simply, leadership is influence. The ideal leader is someone whose life and character motivate people to follow.

The best kind of leadership derives its authority first from the force of a righteous example, and not merely from the power of prestige, personality, or position. By contrast, much of the world’s “leadership” is nothing but manipulation of people by threats and rewards. That is not true leadership; it’s exploitation. Real leadership seeks to motivate people from the inside, by an appeal to the heart, not by external pressure and coercion.

For all those reasons, leadership is not about style or technique as much as it is about character. Want proof that effective leadership is not just about style? Notice that a number of divergent leadership styles are modeled in Scripture. Elijah was a loner and a prophet; Moses delegated duties to trusted people whom he kept close to him. Peter was brash; John was tenderhearted. Paul was a dynamic leader, even when being carried about in chains. He influenced people primarily through the force of his words. Evidently, his physical appearance was anything but powerful (2 Corinthians 10:1).

All were men of action, and all used their diverse gifts in markedly different ways. Their leadership styles were varied and diverse. But all were true leaders.

So, to be a great leader in your home, continue to learn to serve, to be a helper, to be the husband, boyfriend, fiance’ or single person, that people would like to follow.  Believe it or not, you are making an impact on your family and all those around you in your Tribe and or circle of friends.  As you learn to Lead in the dimension of God’s Kingdom, the results will be very exciting and you will begin to walk in a whole new area of Freedom in All That God has called you to be.

Men, “Lead for God’s Sake!”